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Keeping healthy and positive beliefs about ourselves and our surroundings helps us get up every day ready to engage with our lives – but some clichés keep us from searching for things that make us successful and happy. Be careful about using these as an excuse for not getting off your butt and improving your life. Remember, words have an impact on us whether spoken or thought.
The ridicule comes from the old stereotype that bisexual men and women are either ultimately confused, or closeted homosexuals, afraid of making the full jump.
Dear Shanna,
Can using too much lube at one time wind up being dangerous? If so, what is the appropriate amount of lube to use?
– Slick Rick in the Hig
I think there are three areas where gay ideals could set straight people up to be more holistically healthy, honest and introspective.
Dear Shanna,
I’ve been out for almost a decade now, but my girlfriend is a newly-out baby dyke and isn’t out to her family yet. I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but having her family think we’re “just” roommates is bothering me. What should I do?
– Out and Proud in Aurora
For the first time in my life, I felt that I was in a city surrounded by my tribe. Each trip to San Francisco impacted me in different ways: The first time I had a breakdown at the airport returning home and semi-frequently for the following few weeks after returning to “normal” life. For a long while, I toyed around with moving there or to another city that provided more of a central gay population, a wider social life and the opportunity to exist in a unified gay commune.
This might sound slightly weird, but I think that when I get horny, I tend to sneeze a lot more. Is this a thing, or am I imagining it? If it helps, I am a transgender guy, and I do take testosterone shots.
I have an anxiety disorder and have a prescription for a medicine I take if I’m having a panic attack. My boyfriend doesn’t have anxiety but sometimes likes to take my pills for fun, always asking me for some, or sometimes just popping them when I’m not around. He’s not addicted or taking whole bottles, and I don’t think abusing this medication is much worse than using marijuana or for an underage person to drink alcohol. I just hate how he treats my disorder like a fun chance to get high, because I treat it very seriously. I don’t want to seem stingy or conservative. How should I handle the situation?
It’s Friday night, and the moon is out, gonna head on over to…well, where does one head to when they want to be in a space that is welcoming to all aspects of the LGBTQ community? In fact, is there even a space that can combine the needs of all of the different facets? When queer folks and LGBT folk want to go out on the town, what spaces are right for what groups?
A guy wants to hook up with me, and I think the sex would be amazing. But he has a boyfriend he already cheats on sometimes.
