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Dear Brent, I feel like I’m spending a lot of wasted time online trying to…
Angelo lives in the middle of the gayborhood. His gaybors, Anders and Lionel, are a…
Your first visit to your gay friend’s home can tell any story. You might learn…
My online patience is quickly running out. I have wasted so much time trying to…
Instead of boring plains, gay people like to live where there are things above and around them, wrapping the view-plane like a cozy hug. That means hilly places, like California, or forested places, like Massachusetts. But what gay men like most of all is living under 30-story buildings – which make up the least flat landscape you can think of – in a city wrapped in hills, under a cover of permanent clouds and fog, in a region blanketed by hundreds of miles of breathtakingly tall redwood trees
The economy sucks. Your job doesn’t pay what it did, and gas prices – yikes. They say the rich are getting richer, but in your little gay universe you’ll do whatever it takes to get a deal this Pride weekend and still have fun.
AIDS. It’s a four-letter word that packs a wallop. Hell, it’s not even a word.…
Stuff gay people like affectionately refers to these and all other hairstyles moving through a gender-neutral social phase as “bottom-tops.” Soon, each style will diverge into numerous manifestations as every kind of group adopts them differently; a slightly more restrained form of a hairdo will develop for straight men, a version with longer length will pop up for straight women and a $5,000-apiece highlighted adaptation will become popular in Hollywood.
It’s as if we are back in 1983 all over again. Fear, stigma and intentional ignorance are the norms. Only this time it’s all coming from within our own gay male community, not from the outside. We refer to ourselves and one another as “clean,” “bug-free,” or “ddf.” We isolate and alienate ourselves.
We speculate that homophobia began 10,000 years ago in a Stone Age village – when…
