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Pulling on a ‘bar casual’ ensemble for Out Front’s photo shoot at the Eagle, Egloff explained his attire starting with the black flogger he carried – an intimidating-looking device resembling a leather pom-pom. ‘It’s pretty standard,’ Egloff said, while the leather gauntlet wrapped around his wrist was, he said, ‘on the left because I’m a top.’
Denver has quite a diverse and thriving BDSM and fetish scene. From the Denver Eagle (a leather bar) to Thunder in the Mountains (a yearly kink conference and event) and the upcoming Exile Party at Tracks to the multiple public and private dungeons, Colorado has its fair share of hot spots for kinksters, fetishists and those who enjoy exploring the various facets of BDSM.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few years now. I love her a lot, and everything is great … except for I’m getting really sick of having to strap it on. I mean, I like some hot harness action as much as anyone else, but it seems as though that is all she likes. She says it’s not “real” sex unless there is penetration. Am I stuck with this, or is there hope in diversifying our sex life?
For some people, admitting to an interest in kink can parallel coming out a gay, transgender, or HIV-positive. All can trigger aspects of personal shame, fear and embarrassment, or may cause people to reject you for something you’re working to embrace about yourself.
Whether these people are searching for a quick sex fling or a partnership of a more long-term nature, dating sites have become popular in the queer community for a variety of reasons.
10. You’re a slut / whore / skank / dirty bird / big pickle diver
When I watch porn, the guys frequently use spit before penetrating each other anally. My boyfriend and I have tried this, but it is still a little painful. Does spitting actually accomplish anything? Any suggestions on how to make it hu
Dear Brent,
Everybody agrees that the guy who has sex with you once then loses all interest is an asshole. I am that guy.
Art prods those questions forward, bringing the maligned and embarrassing to new light – giving things we feel some residual shame and embarrassment about a space we can (try our best to) talk about with a straight face.
Whether it’s Da Vinci and Michelangelo expressing homoeroticism through religious paintings, or Robert Mapplethorpe forcing the public to define their fears, art has always been the canal of human expression for all things wonderful and horrible, sex being the river that flows through it.
