When I cut it to a chin-length bob after a bad break-up, people freaked out. Basically, no one liked it, and I would wake up the middle of the night reaching for my long hair, shocked to remember that it was gone. Was I not “pretty” anymore? So, I grew it back.
My lifestyle is misunderstood by most, especially in our lesbian community: my girlfriend and I have been in a successful polyamorous relationship for three years. It’s possible, I can assure you.
With a last name like Salam, I’m frequently asked if I’m Muslim. The answer is no, but I gave it a try when I was 10. As a young girl I watched my grandparents and uncles pray – it was a mesmerizing, intriguing process even though I had no understanding of God.