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Are sub-stereotypes misleading?

Many of us think that stereotypes are great tools in protecting us from harm, but they can also keep us in negative and judgmental places.

The bug chaser

How could anyone want to get a disease, especially one so serious? How could someone want the very thing that wreaked havoc in my own life? I had encountered my very first bug chaser and loathed it.

Porn this way

When I was younger, I knew porn was bad. Raised as a goody-two shoes Roman…

HeinzeSight: Beyond the stereotypical addictions

Many of us have struggled with addictions: alcohol, drugs, tobacco, sex, eating, working out, or…

Bleed Like Me: Naked Yoga

I stood outside the building, bundled in my winter coat. I clutched my new yoga mat,…

HeinzeSight: ‘Why don’t you just give up?’

We’ve all been lied to. We’ve been told that to ‘give up’ shows weakness. It’s not necessarily true. I’ve actually improved my life by learning to give up, and I believe that we can all benefit from this philosophy; it’s definitely not the easy way out. 

Not their kind of Garbage

In the mid ’90s, Garbage was the first band to unlock the secret success of combining rival music genres. Their specialty twisted between alternative rock and dance/electronica. After four albums, the band members called it quits in 2005 citing the greedy, controlling demands of record labels.

How to make those holiday calories work for you

By timing your “cheat,” or unhealthier meals, out at specific times throughout the day, the holiday calories from these meals are less likely to be stored as fat and more prone to be used for muscle recovery.

Ten cliché phrases that can hurt

Keeping healthy and positive beliefs about ourselves and our surroundings helps us get up every day ready to engage with our lives – but some clichés keep us from searching for things that make us successful and happy. Be careful about using these as an excuse for not getting off your butt and improving your life. Remember, words have an impact on us whether spoken or thought.

If you’re always ‘safe,’ do you still need to disclose HIV status?

After I met Jack, I knew I found a guy I could really look up to. In his early 50s, he had been partnered for more than 30 years, established himself as a business owner, kept in shape, and had vivacious appetite for life adventure. Jack was the man I wanted as a mentor.